Think. Restrain. Steadfast. Fair.
2 ears, 1 mouth.
Goodness over greatness.
Transactional relationships are zero sum; sometimes you are winning but you’ll lose just as often. The best relationships are reciprocal. The difference? Reciprocity has the potential to add to one individual’s experience without subtracting from the other.
Are you the first ever person to experience this? No? Then don’t be surprised. You know it could happen. Why did you assume it wouldn’t happen to you?
Be prepared. Don’t let the day surprise you. If you become surprised, don’t panic. This probably isn’t the first time you’ve dealt with this and you endured last time. If you haven’t dealt with it before, there is a first time for you, but never ever a first time for anything.
Don’t fear failure more than success. They are intertwined.
When you are saddened by that something didn’t work out as you had hoped, double click on that. Did you do all that you could? Yes? Then it turned out as it should. Adjust your expectations next time.
Keep perspective always, Sisyphus.
I attach easily because I’m willing to share easily … if I find someone who is willing and capable of engagement at the level I seek, which is rare. I talk best to unicorns. If I were better with small talk, perhaps I’d get to know more people week enough to get to a driver level. I am trying to be better at that, but it is a persistent weakness of mine.
Instead of trying to make your life perfect, give yourself the freedom to make it an adventure.
Drew Houston
Rightness without righteousness.
Do what you can without dreaming for what you can’t.
This path might be new to you, but you are walking on trampled ground.
Those who cast stones often live in homes made of the thinnest glass.
Practice. Practice. Practice. Mind and body. All of you. Over and over again. Your only excuse is a lack of temperance; it is unlikely that whatever you are doing is of greater value to you.
Point your energy in the direction of practice. Point your practice in the direction of virtue. This is the path of goodness.
It is a difficult thing to have your own experience become negatively impacted by someone else’s obviously poor choices. Maybe their values differ from your own. Maybe they lack insight or wisdom. Those things have no impact on you. Are you not good or strong enough to persevere and endure this? Of course you are, and you will be wiser for it afterward, so long as you exercise the wisdom, temperance, courage, and justice required.
On Attachment:
- I am most attached to Christine. No one comes even close
- I let go of things when I need to. If they don’t like me, I move on. If I can’t have it, I move on. There has only ever been one thing that I’ve held onto when others thought I should let it go. I think they were wrong.
- Don’t collect things. Collect memories.
- I know I’m anxiously attached. Connection is rare and is struggle to not fear its loss. I’m getting better. Living in the moment is important. If I’m present in the now, I’m not stressing about the future.
- The deepest of emotional attachments … They help me ensure the most difficult of times. It is over thing to rationalize a difficult circumstance and feel less some knowing others have endured this same thing before, but it is a different thing altogether to have someone to share your feelings with in the here and now.
- When does attachment cross the line? When does something that is healthy become unhealthy? I don’t know. Does it prevent you from being a good person or virtuous? Even if so, why? The answer isn’t clear. Our maybe I just don’t want it to be clear.